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Do I Need a Kid in My Life?

Hi guys,

This post is a personal discussion between you and I. Have you ever been on the fence about whether or not to have a kid in your life?. Then read ahead :

I never wanted kids in my life… You might wonder what kind of woman am I to say something like that. But it’s the truth. In fact, I know there is a minority in the society consisting of women who share my sentiments. I am writing this for those women..

Today, I am a mother to a 22 months old son. I had him after 4 years of married life. Even after the initial year of my marriage, people had started asking when I am gonna have a kid and it annoyed me a lot. That’s how the Indian society is. My husband said we should enjoy life freely and thus, we put the ‘family planning’ on hold. But after 4 years, hubby said it’s his dream to have a kid and I was shattered. I finally told him I am not ready and nor I ever will be and he was shocked.

We had several discussions, mostly arguements but then he asked me why did I get married if I didn’t want kids.. Hmm, interesting point.  Truth is that, I didn’t wanna get married at all but then my parents wanted me to have a support, a husband, a family and I had just gone with the flow.

Anyways long story short, I understood that it’s truly selfish if I didn’t let my husband realize his dreams of being a father. Then I became a mom. Our son, Eshaan, was born in 2015 and it was just amazing 👶

A little bundle of joy indeed, something I would have missed out on if I had decided to never have kids. I realized a lot of things after actually being a mom and I will discuss it with you now. It might help you to finally make your own decision. Here they are below in points :

● First and foremost thing is that a child becomes your future. Something to look forward to… Something to live for….

● When you are old and needs support,  it’s your child(ren) who will look after you.  Well, that’s the hope atleast. We can’t predict at all, how the future would be but you can raise a child with values and they will respect you forever.

● You grow with them. Children teach a lot of things to us too. My son has taught me to be a better person..

●  The joy that you experience when they develop each day, do/say something new is inexplicable. Even their smile lights up your day. Every moment, a memory created, to be relived another day..

● A child is a happiness maker. Recently, I noticed how sensitive my son is to my moods. When I am sad, he calls me, gets my attention, kisses me and generally just distracts me from whatever I am sad about. I am incredibly amazed by how much a kid understands even from such a young age.

● The fact that this little person comes to you for comfort is just adorable. They need you and you can’t help but need them back.

● When I hold my son, I just feel complete. I don’t know how to explain it, but it’s like a puzzle that’s complete, now that he has come into my life..

Picture source : Google.com

● Since becoming a mom, I realize how big this role is. I now respect my mom more.

● Kids are one of God’s most precious gifts. They keep amazing you each day..

● Sometimes I just want him to sleep, so that I can rest. But once he does sleep, I surprise myself when I feel a longing to hold him again and play with him..

● A child brings more love into the family. The love between you and your hubby increases like ten fold  💑

These are but a few points that I wish to convey to you. By the way, motherhood isn’t just happiness. It’s tough. It definitely is. I believe that when I am discussing it, I should discuss it all & not just paint a picture of joy.

● Be ready to be responsible. You have a little person depending on you. That’s huge.

● Be ready to get your patience tested. Sometimes I just wanna rip my hair apart. That’s how much my son makes me go nuts, by being stubborn. But I need to learn patience. I am slowly doing it and that’s why I said earlier that he makes me a better person.

● Be ready to learn that your kid is an individual, one with his/her own viewpoints, that might clash with your’s.

In another two  years, my son would be ready for school and God only knows how I would cope with that. More responsibility,  more madness & craziness coming up in my life. But then again, I am happy. That’s what truly matters…

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Naz ♥

My New Year Resolutions for 2017!

Hello ♥

Happy new year to all of you & here is wishing you all a wonderful, fulfilling, prosperous & healthy 2017!

happy new year image

I thought I’ll share my resolutions for the upcoming year with you all. True that at times I think resolutions are perfect to be followed in January & then conveniently dumped from February on!. Lol. But, a girl can hope yeah?. Here are my 6 goals :

Lose weight – Probably on everyone’s list & the top one too.. I am currently 77 kgs. By the end of 2017, I hope to reach 65 kgs. Back in 2014, the doc informed me that I can’t conceive unless I lose weight and in a period of 1.5 years I reduced my weight from 83 kgs to 68 kgs. Here is my transformation pic even though the last pic is when I was 72 kgs. I went on to lose 4 more kgs but didn’t click a pic. So yeah, if I put my mind to it, I know I can do it.

Weightloss transformation

Btw if you are wondering how I lost weight, it’s by :

¤ cutting out rice almost completely
¤ cutting out junk food especially burgers, pasta & pizza (my absolute fav stuff) &
¤ going for a walk for about an hour a day

Side note – My fav shopping site, iHerb has a ‘New Year New You’ special deal happening, for a limited time. It offers extremely low prices on Sports, Fitness, Weightloss & Athletic products. They ship worldwide from US.

new year goals

Drink more water – I drink only about a couple of glasses a day right now!. It is soo less. I wish to start with 2 litres a day and then increase it to 3 litres. Water helps flush out toxins & brings in overall wellness. I am so lazy when it comes to reaching for that cup of water. I hope to beat it, this year.

Drink water

Image from Memecenter

Blog more – Being a mom is more tough than I ever imagined. I literally have no time or I am failing fantastically in time management. I have been slacking so badly in putting up posts. I wish to post consistently from now on.

Take haircare more seriously – I always give massive importance to skincare, but never for haircare. 2017 needs to be different.. I have invested in the below products in hopes of achieving an attractive mane of hair :

Haircare products

¤ Tigi S Factor hair moisture serum – While searching for a good hair serum, I came across this one because of the many rave reviews it has earned. Detailed review later.

¤ Cedarwood essential oil– Known to help in strengthening hair and fighting hair loss. I bought this online and it will be featured in my next iHerb haul.

¤ Bass boar bristle brush – People are raving about these brushes. There must be something special in it then, right?. Wait for my review about it for details 🙂

¤ Dessata detangler brush – My hair gets so tangled, I am not even kidding when I say it resembles a bird’s nest at times. Again, wait for my detailed review coming up soon.

¤ Shampoo & conditioner from Dove’s Oxygen Moisture line – Been loving this recently and I intend to make it a part of my regular haircare routine in 2017. These were sent to me for review but rest of the products mentioned above were purchased on my own.

Enjoy motherhood more – Being a mom to my son, Eshaan, is such a blessing. But being someone who is blatantly frank, I would be lying if I said motherhood has not made me tired, irate and generally mad!. But I need to ‘Keep calm & be a patient mom’. Lol. No doubt about it, he is adorable and so so naughty. He is nearly 14 months old. I love him soo much. Here is his pic, since you guys have never seen him before… God bless him, touchwood..

Be thankful – It’s easy to be hopeless, sad and irate with situations that life throws at you. But I need to be more thankful, appreciate life more and as such, discover more happiness.. I know it will make me a much better version of myself 🙂

Being thankful

Image from Google.com

Alright, that’s all for now. I hope you have a great & successful year ahead of you ♥. If you have couple of mins to spare, let me know in the comments below, what your resolutions are for 2017 🙂

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Naz ♥